I received this as well ... I think in its content it tells very personal stories of these women but I think it only represents women who were not involved in ongoing relationships for most of their childrens lives although not perfect having their children in their lives may have helped their sorrow some ... It really cemented to me how glad I am that my husband and I are in very open/ongoing and loving relationships with both our daughters birthmothers and extended family!
I think it is very sad. I don't think this is the case each time but I think at times birthmothers may be told that the best thing to do would be adoption even though they could provide their child with a good life. Even though a home with a mother and a father is ideal, children do fine raised by one parent. Also, adoptive couples are not safe from divorce or death so what makes ppl think the child would forever have a 2 parent home if adopted anyways? I found out I was pregnant a month after I turned 20 years old. I kept my daughter. Never thought to do anything different. And it breaks my heart to hear of young women similar to my age giving up their children. I just don't know how they can as said in the video. My daughter is now going to be 5 in April and she is such a joy in my life! We also have a 2 year old boy now! And I just couldn't imagine someone telling me that just because I am a young mom I should give up my child. We may not have as much money as the older parents but really, our children have everything they need plus more, they have a stable and consistent family, and are very loved. I think when it is the choice of the birthmother and she is not brain washed or coerced and she truly is supported whether or not she decides to place then that is her choice and adoption can be an awesome thing. But it should be her choice and no one should pressure her during such a stressful time in her life.
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I received this as well ... I think in its content it tells very personal stories of these women but I think it only represents women who were not involved in ongoing relationships for most of their childrens lives although not perfect having their children in their lives may have helped their sorrow some ... It really cemented to me how glad I am that my husband and I are in very open/ongoing and loving relationships with both our daughters birthmothers and extended family!
I think it is very sad. I don't think this is the case each time but I think at times birthmothers may be told that the best thing to do would be adoption even though they could provide their child with a good life. Even though a home with a mother and a father is ideal, children do fine raised by one parent. Also, adoptive couples are not safe from divorce or death so what makes ppl think the child would forever have a 2 parent home if adopted anyways? I found out I was pregnant a month after I turned 20 years old. I kept my daughter. Never thought to do anything different. And it breaks my heart to hear of young women similar to my age giving up their children. I just don't know how they can as said in the video. My daughter is now going to be 5 in April and she is such a joy in my life! We also have a 2 year old boy now! And I just couldn't imagine someone telling me that just because I am a young mom I should give up my child. We may not have as much money as the older parents but really, our children have everything they need plus more, they have a stable and consistent family, and are very loved. I think when it is the choice of the birthmother and she is not brain washed or coerced and she truly is supported whether or not she decides to place then that is her choice and adoption can be an awesome thing. But it should be her choice and no one should pressure her during such a stressful time in her life.
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