Brian and I went to the hospital last night and spent some time with Avenn before she was discharged. We helped to load her up and send her on her way to the foster family's home for the weekend. She is in very good hands and will be the center of attention all weekend I believe.
The hearing for the termination of the birth mother's rights is set for Monday at 4 p.m. The birth father's termination paperwork was filed yesterday with the court. We do not attend the TPR (Termination of Parental Rights) hearing on Monday. The hearing will include the birth mother, judge and agency social worker. After the hearing is completed we will be notified immediately by our social worker and will meet at the agency for a commitment ceremony. The birth parents may attend if they like.
After the TPR's have been signed and filed we will have to wait six months in Oklahoma (it varies from state to state) to finalize the adoption. Everyone always asks when/if the birth parents can change their mind within the six months. They can, but it is very difficult for them. In the 30 years our agency has been placing children, twice has a birth parent returned and challenged the TPR. In both cases the children remained with the adoptive parents. The birth parents would have to prove to the court they had been coerced or under duress when they signed the TPR.
We hope to have Avenn in our arms by 6:30 p.m. on Monday.