We talk openly about adoption in our home it is just the norm. Sometimes, I forget that some people may be taken aback to hear our kids are adopted. Our theory has always been if adoption is openly discussed our children will never be made to feel uncomfortable or different for being adopted. Adoption will simply be the story of how our family came together.
Now, I do not jump out and volunteer our personal information but if the only response that is appropriate or can explain something is that our kids are adopted I just say it. For instance, at a birthday party last weekend another mother and I were discussing how her son's arm was injured. She proceeded to tell me it was an injury received during his delivery and the conversation continued. At some point, a question was asked of me and I responded that our kids were adopted. She paused awkwardly then said, Oh I didn't realize that.
I didn't mean to make her feel awkward. She probably never had an open discussion about adoption. I think I caught her off guard. Perhaps the next time she will think nothing of it, no awkward pause necessary.
Not everyone is open about their adoption. There are people who work hard to keep it a secret, that's too bad. Adoption should not be a secret. Adoption is not something to hide. Talk about adoption. Discuss adoption, doing so educates and makes people comfortable with it. I would love to take that awkward pause out of a conversation.