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I personally feel Ms. Staub's adoption occurred in a different era. Her feelings of insecurity and loss are just that...hers. Adoptees may have the same feelings and insecurities as her, but others will not. Each individual adoptee's feelings and processing of their adoption will differ. It is definitely important to be open and honest with our adopted children. We must also do all we can to assist them through the processing of their adoption, including therapy if needed. Ms. Staub's issues with her adoption are real and we should be aware as adoptive parents and prepared as adoptive parents to help our children. I do however believe each adoptee will be different and her issues may not be everyones. It is my personal belief honesty and openness is the best policy when discussing adoption with our children. That being said, conversations should also be age appropriate.
We have much more information about our sons' biological families. We have photos, letters, social history, health history and personal information. Adoption registries are also available to assist in locating their family members if and when they decide to locate their biological family. This information is and will be available to them as they begin to wonder and develop questions. Are we doing everything the right way? I doubt it. We are however handling adoption the best way we know how to in our home.
