The Holidays

The holiday season is fast approaching.  The holiday season is when I spend the most time thinking back on my boys' adoptions and their birth families.  This time of year is spent with family and I cannot help but to think of the birth families.  Even though we spent a short amount of time with the birth families they became part of us.  They are part of our family.  It's hard to explain unless you've experienced it.  You develop a bond with the birth parents and come to feel very close to them.  They are our boys' family and thus become ours too.  I don't know if our boys will ever chose to seek out their biological parents but we'll be sure to tell them what we know and share with them the memories we have of their biological parents.  We will continue to send gifts to the adoption agency during this time of year, photos, and letters letting them know how the boys are doing.  Each year I have ornaments made with the boys photos on them.  I send the same ornaments to the adoption agency for the birth families.  As the boys age and help us decorate our tree, we tell them their birth families have these same ornaments and may be decorating their tree just like ours.  It creates a small connection for us and an opportunity to discuss their adoptions.  If not for adoption, our holidays would not be so blessed.