Adoption Tips

According to the National Adoption Information Clearinghouse, six out of ten people have either adopted a child themselves, placed a child for adoption, or know a family member or close friend who has done so.

Child Welfare League of America offers the following advice for adoptive parents:
* Start the process by doing your homework. Learn all you can about how adoption works in your state. Seek the advice and services of the state or county child welfare agency or an established, licensed adoption organization in your community.
* Ask for all the information that can legally be provided about your child and his or her birth family; this information will be invaluable to them later in life.
* Be open and honest about everything from the very beginning. Tell your child he is adopted; tell the child what you know of his birth family. It’s much easier to tell the truth than to try to work through lack of trust later.
* The child’s desire to know his or her birth parents is natural and has nothing to do with their relationship with you. Remember a child cannot be loved by too many people -- the birth parent is not your enemy.
* Treat the adopted child the same as you would a birth child by providing the same expectations, the same nurturing and support.
* Assure the child that that you will always be there for him.
* Adolescence is difficult for most children and their parents, but can be especially troubling for some adopted families. Find other adoptive parents to spend time with, at least until your child is grown. They will be a source of strength, support and wisdom.
* Continue to attend training related to adoption issues. You may find some answers, or you may be able to help other adoptive parents with your insight and solutions.
* Spend special time with your spouse, significant other, or best friends. Give the kids and yourself a break!
* Remember to keep an open mind and heart -- your child is depending on you. 


Source: http://www.keepkidshealthy.com/parenting_tips/tips_adoptive_parents.html