As parents of adopted children we face many of the same obstacles in parenthood as biological parents. We also will likely encounter issues that are unique to adoption. One of the issues adoptive parents often must help their children address is a sense of loss and grief. Be prepared and expect your child to encounter these feelings. If outside help or counseling is needed seek it (I will post information on how to find an adoption therapist tomorrow). Click here and here for more information on grief and loss issues for the adopted child.
Another unique issue adoptive parents and their children may encounter comes from the general public. When families are formed through adoption we may not always resemble each other. Oftentimes, people are completely comfortable asking questions we may find personal, offensive, or intrusive. Remember, these questions generally come about because the person asking them has little knowledge and/or experience with adoption. When asked personal questions use the opportunity to educate and advocate adoption whenever possible.
As our children become school aged they will encounter issues unique to them. Children can be cruel and hurtful with their comments when addressing an adopted child. Certain school assignments may be uncomfortable or awkward for adopted children (i.e. genealogy, biology assignments). For resources to help parents and teachers work together click here.
I write these posts as a parent. As I research, read, and learn I share my resources with you. If you have additional resources to share or topics you would appreciate a post about feel free to email me at adoptivemomma2@yahoo.com.
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