Reluctant to Adopt

Fortunately, Brian and I came to the decision to adopt together.  It was a joint decision and we were both on board.  However, it is not uncommon for a spouse to be reluctant.  How can you and your spouse work through the situation?

7 Tips to Help Ease a Spouse's Reluctance 

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1. Acknowledge your spouse's concerns and fears; try to listen with interest, not judgment.
2. Air and discuss the differences between you, rather than trying to cover them up or smooth them over.
3. Don't take a spouse's initial reaction as the final word.  When a subject is emotionally charge, people often say things they don't really mean.
4. Give a spouse time and space to consider issues as they arise; recognize that people approach change at different speeds.
5. Find a support group of other couples considering adoption.  Hearing that they, too, have reservations may help.
6. If your spouse isn't providing the support and encouragement you need to cope with the rocky adoption process, seek it from a sympathetic friend or relative.
7. See a marriage counselor if you have trouble navigating any of these issues.  A reluctant spouse may hear questions and advice better from a neutral observer.

For more information on how to communicate with a reluctant spouse or relative visit www.adoptivefamilies.com/reluctantfamily to read L. Millbrand's article.