Do You Ever Worry?

Do you ever worry they will show up on your doorstep?  Do you ever worry they will find you?  All questions we have been asked about the boys' birth families.  Our answer is no.  We do not worry about it at all. We never even think about it.

We chose to use an experienced and reputable adoption agency.   A main reason for that decision was to make sure all of our T's were crossed and I's dotted.  We wanted to be sure all the proper paperwork was filed and completed.  Often when you hear the stories in the media about a birth mother who contacts an adoptive family 5 years later wanting to regain custody of her child and a long court battle ensues it is because the proper paperwork was not completed.

We are certain all procedures were properly followed during the relinquishment, termination of rights, and placement.  We were then able to complete finalization in the courts, allowing us peace of mind.

Is it possible a biological family member could track us down?  I suppose it is possible but they would not have the legal right to do so. We did not chose a semi-open adoption alone, the birth parents made the same decision or we would not have been matched.

What about your blog?  Do you worry putting your information out on the web will allow them access to you?  Again the answer is no.  What would happen if they found my blogs?  They would see we love our boys.  They would see we are raising them as best we can and surrounding them with loving family members and friends.  If they found my blogs they would see we love adoption and feel we have been more than blessed because of adoption.  According to Wikipedia, as of December 2007 there were approximately 112 million blogs on the web.  My blogs are 2 of 112 million odds are they will not find mine.